Relationships are the door by which we experience what creation truly has to offer. Without them, things are just a bit more muted—life is less vibrant. Relationships give meaning to our laughter. They give strength in our distress. They prove who we really are.
You were not meant to do this thing called, life, alone.
So, what does this have to do with becoming?
Our enemy knows this to be true. He remembers when God said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” He heard Jesus pray, “Father, may they be one, just as you, Father, are in me, and I in you.” He was listening in the background when the Father commissioned Adam and Eve to multiply and fill the earth. Satan understands, if he can divide people—get them isolated—then, he can destroy who we were truly meant to be.
I believe there is no greater attack upon humanity, right now, than the spirit of isolation. When we cast life alone, we lose our meaning. When we have to be right more than all others, then hate replaces love, and our mission is lost. Life without healthy relationships is like seeing only in black and white.
If you truly want to succeed in life, to have victory on every front, to become all that God designed you to be, then you must decide to do it in relationship with real people.
Certainly, there are times we need to be alone and rejuvenate—Jesus showed us that; but even Jesus needed His disciples to fulfill His mission on the earth. He chose 1 as His best friend; 3 as His closest companions and strength; and 12 to be on mission with Him. If the Son of God required people in His life, then how much more do we.
Look around you. Do you have the kinds of relationships that create not only the life you want, but also the atmosphere by which you are transformed? Like Jesus, they must be chosen on purpose. They must be prayed about; they must be considered. These people are not just those you have fun with , but those with whom you can truly be transparent. You can dream with them—discuss hopes, plans and goals.
What to do? Pray and search…and pray some more. Don’t ever give up. When disappointed, move on. But never stop pursuing relationship. Never stop giving.
Together, we will see the promises of God fulfilled!